Reactivity + Resentment
Photo By LaRell Herbert
Reactivity and Resentment are lazy forms of grieving. There is a push away from the discomfort of having no control. If there is nothing to do, to say, what’s left? There is the emotion and pain not acknowledged because we are plagued with the need to change what is.
Reactivity gives the illusion of control. There are deep seated feelings of unease and pain to deal with if we give up control. Relegating control means investigating and holding space for feelings usually masked by reactivity’s commiserate anger. Anger takes over giving responsiveness action and JUSTIFICATION to force agendas. Resentment is the relinquishing control even of one’s self and boundaries. This is Self betrayal there is no acceptance process within resentment. This is another mask used to avoid and distract from that discomfort yet again. Grieving is constantly surrendered to ego, to the universe, and to love. Surrendering creates spaciousness to feel.
Radical acceptance gives the permission to feel our pain, while having self-compassion. To the degree that we accept life as it is, is the level of freedom we attain. This is the open door to spiritual awakening.