Monthly Mentorship for partners and family of Trans identifying individuals, or someone actively seeking transition
Let’s talk about how YOU are feeling.
Do you feel betrayed or abandoned by your partner's transition?
Do you feel hopeless, disempowered, and like your life is no longer your own choice?
Are doctors, therapists, friends, and family so concerned with your trans partner that your feelings, experiences, and needs are being massively overlooked?
We are a husband and wife team who has navigated gender transition together.
LaRell, a now detransitioned man, spent his entire life believing himself to have a female “soul” or “mind”. This ultimately caused him to seek “gender affirming care” in the form of female hormones, and eventually sex reassignment surgery.
However, this was detrimental to LaRell’s wife Valerie who became “the forgotten partner” in the process. LaRell’s obsession with becoming “authentic” to who he believed himself to be inside, caused him to become very self centered in his pursuit of the “next step” in gender transition. This left Valerie feeling ignored, unseen, forgotten and unable to fully express her femininity.
This journey has made both Valerie and LaRell starkly aware of a lesser recognized issue in the world. And that is “the forgotten partners” of those actively seeking transition, or already transitioned.
Who Are we and why work with us?
Who we are:
When Valerie and LaRell met nine years ago, they fell hopelessly in love. However, their journey was immediately challenged by deep-seated trauma patterns that began to emerge. Their love, so profound and soulful, catalyzed a nine-year daily devotion to healing and navigating the subconscious mind to heal from lifetimes of complex traumas.
Their commitment to something greater than themselves—their marriage and union—brought all past traumas, beliefs, and "demons" to the surface, demanding integration to avoid being overwhelmed. Both Valerie and LaRell experienced significant trauma, abuse, and neglect in their childhoods, which manifested in dark and insidious ways throughout their relationship.
Just one month into their marriage, LaRell revealed to Valerie that he was not the man she married, but a woman trapped in a man's body. This revelation marked the beginning of a profound and challenging journey. Over the next six years, through transitioning and hundreds of thousands of hours spent in meditation, sitting with plant medicines, training in complex trauma, undergoing years of therapy, and extensive education, they navigated this transformative process.
Their dedication to healing and understanding complex trauma has given them unique insights and tools that they now wish to share with others. Their experience has made them acutely aware of the often overlooked needs of partners and families of trans individuals.
Why Work With Us?
Lived Experience: Valerie and LaRell have personally navigated the complexities of a partner's transition, bringing a deeply empathetic and knowledgeable perspective.
Holistic Approach: Combining traditional therapies, meditation, plant medicine, and trauma training, they offer a comprehensive and compassionate approach to healing.
Community and Support: They understand the importance of community and support, offering a safe space for partners to share their experiences and find solace in knowing they are not alone.
Why Join a Community Like This
Navigating a relationship where your partner is transitioning can be incredibly challenging and isolating. Our community is designed to provide the support, understanding, and resources you need to thrive during this transformative journey.
Real-World Insights: Valerie and LaRell have personally experienced the complexities and emotional challenges of a partner’s transition. Their journey has given them deep empathy and practical insights that they are eager to share.
Relatable Guidance: Benefit from their firsthand knowledge and understanding, knowing that you are being guided by someone who truly understands your situation.
Reclaim Your Sense of Self: Our program is designed to help you rediscover your own identity and empower you to navigate your partner’s transition with confidence and resilience.
Tools and Strategies: Gain access to practical tools and coping strategies that can help you manage the emotional and relational challenges you face.
Membership Benefits:
Bi-Monthly Virtual Calls: Participate in live virtual calls twice a month, where you can connect with others facing similar challenges. These calls provide a safe space to share experiences, ask questions, and receive guidance from LaRell, Valerie, and guest experts.
Private Facebook Group: Access our exclusive Facebook group to engage in ongoing discussions, share resources, and find continuous support from a community that understands your journey.
Ongoing Content and Support: Receive regular updates, articles, and resources designed to help you navigate your unique journey. This includes educational content, coping strategies, self-care tips, and inspirational stories.
Flexible Membership: Our support group is an ongoing monthly membership. You are free to continue participating and paying every month for as long as you find it beneficial. You can also choose to quit anytime without any long-term commitment.
By joining our community, you will not only find solace in knowing you are not alone but also benefit from a wealth of resources aimed at helping you reclaim your sense of self and well-being.