Personalized Support for Gender Identity Challenges whether it’s you, or someone you love
Are you or someone you love navigating the complexities of gender identity? Whether you are questioning your own gender, supporting a loved one through their journey, considering detransition, or coping with the aftermath of a significant change, you don't have to face it alone.
LaRell Herbert
I am a post-operative former trans woman with a profound understanding of identity and identity formation. I offer personalized, one-on-one mentoring through virtual video calls, providing compassionate support tailored to your unique journey.
My Journey and Insight into Gender Identity
From the time I was about four years old, I believed I had been born into the wrong body. I felt that I had a female soul or brain trapped in a male body. Growing up in the environment I did, especially within the indoctrination of the Mormon church, I knew from a very early age that I had to suppress any evidence of this internal female identity. The societal and religious pressures around me dictated that I conform to a male identity, causing me to experience the ongoing torment of not being able to express what I felt was my true self. I felt a deep, painful disconnection, unable to engage in activities or dress in ways that aligned with who I truly believed I was.
Just two years into my relationship with my wife, Valerie, I transitioned to live as a woman. I had learned that hormone replacement therapy and surgery could help my body feel more aligned with my internal feelings. This profound transformation, which included gender reassignment surgery in 2019, had significant impacts on our relationship. Despite Valerie’s loving support, the journey was challenging to say the least for both of us, as we navigated the complexities of my transition together.
By late 2023, after considerable introspection and examining my childhood traumas, I gained extensive insight into the formation of identity. Through this profound journey, I came to a new understanding of "Gender Identity" — recognizing it as an identity formed through our unique experiences and responses to the world around us.
I realized that beneath the layers of a developed gender identity lies a true self, a self that is inherently worthy of love and acceptance just as we are born. This true self is confident, joyful, and free from the self-imposed limitations and societal expectations that often lead us to believe we must become someone or something else to find happiness.
This journey has equipped me with deep empathy and invaluable insights into the challenges faced by individuals and their partners during gender transitions. My personal experiences, combined with extensive training, have provided me with a comprehensive understanding of the emotional, social, and relational aspects of gender identity issues.
I am dedicated to supporting others through their own journeys, offering a compassionate ear, informed guidance, and a safe space where they can explore and express their true selves. My goal is to help you or your loved one navigate this complex path with greater clarity, confidence, and a sense of empowerment.
Who Can Benefit from Working with Me?
Individuals:
Gender-questioning individuals seeking clarity and guidance.
Those considering detransition and needing support to navigate this process.
Individuals who have detransitioned and are struggling to cope with their new reality.
Partners:
Partners of those wanting to transition and seeking understanding and support.
Partners of those who have already transitioned and dealing with the relational dynamics.
Partners of those considering detransition, needing guidance through the emotional and relational challenges.
Partners of those who have detransitioned and struggling to adapt to the new dynamics.
What I Offer
Personalized Virtual Video Calls:
Tailored Support: Each session is customized to address your specific needs and challenges.
Empathy and Understanding: Drawing from my personal journey and professional expertise, I offer a compassionate and empathetic approach.
Holistic Guidance: Combining traditional therapies, meditation, breathwork, and feelings and sensations mentorship, I provide a comprehensive approach to healing and empowerment.
Safe and Confidential Space: A secure environment where you can openly discuss your feelings, experiences, and concerns without judgment.
Spiritual Teacher: With a profound understanding of identity, transformation and the self that exists beneath the programming of life experience.
Meditation and Breathwork Instructor: Using meditation and breathwork to help individuals reconnect with their true selves.
Feelings and Sensations Mentor: Focusing on the core of emotional dynamics and feelings and sensations within the body and their impact on our daily choices.
Trained in the Internal Family Systems model of therapy: With formal training in IFS, I combine this knowledge with my experiential expertise in identity formation, to provide a comprehensive approach to gender identity.
Why Work with Me?
Lived Experience: My personal journey through gender transition and detransition offers a unique and empathetic perspective.
Holistic Approach: Integrating various healing methods to provide well-rounded support.
Professional Expertise: Extensive training in emotional and relational dynamics, meditation, breathwork, and trauma-informed care.
Supportive Community: Access to a wider network of support through our mentorship program and exclusive content.
Personalized Support at $125 per Hour
I offer one-on-one coaching sessions at a rate of $125 per hour. Each session is designed to provide you with the guidance, support, and tools you need to navigate your unique challenges. My approach is empathetic, comprehensive, and tailored to meet your specific needs. We can do just one session, or ongoing sessions for as long as you feel you are benefiting. Quit at any time!
Take the Next Step
If you are ready to receive personalized support on your journey, I invite you to apply for a one-on-one coaching session with me. This process is designed to ensure that we can provide the most effective and meaningful support tailored to your specific needs.
Why an Application Process?
Ensuring the Right Fit:
Personalized Approach: Each individual's journey with gender identity is unique. The application helps me understand your specific circumstances, goals, and challenges so that I can tailor my approach to best support you.
Mutual Compatibility: It's crucial that we establish a comfortable and trusting relationship. The application process allows both of us to determine if we are a good match for working together, ensuring a productive and supportive coaching experience.
Commitment to Quality:
Focused Attention: By carefully selecting clients through an application process, I can dedicate my full attention and resources to those who will benefit most from my coaching.
Effective Sessions: Understanding your background and current situation allows us to hit the ground running in our sessions, making them more effective and impactful from the start.
Ethical Considerations:
Respect for Your Time: The application process respects your time and investment by ensuring that the coaching relationship will be beneficial for both of us.
Professional Standards: This approach upholds professional standards, ensuring that I am fully prepared to provide the highest quality of support.
Building a Supportive Environment:
Creating a Safe Space: Knowing more about you helps me create a safe and supportive environment where you feel comfortable sharing your experiences and emotions.
Tailored Resources: The information gathered in the application allows me to prepare and provide resources and strategies that are specifically relevant to your situation.
How to Apply
Click the button below to fill out the application. The questions are designed to gather important information about your journey, challenges, and goals. Once I receive your application, I will review it carefully to determine if we are a good match for working together. If selected, I will send an invitation to book, and we will schedule a session to begin your personalized coaching experience.
Your journey towards understanding, healing, and empowerment starts here. By applying for a one-on-one coaching session, you are taking the first step towards a supportive and transformative experience tailored just for you. Let’s navigate this path together with clarity, compassion, and empowerment.
LaRell Herbert's memoir offers a profound and personal insight into his unique journey through gender identity. Living as a woman for six years and undergoing gender reassignment surgery, he believed these radical changes were essential for his happiness. Raised in the Mormon faith, LaRell's life unfolds from a conventional marriage to his decision to transition, and finally, to his courageous choice to detransition and live again as a man.
This book delves into the complex realities of gender dysphoria, challenging the conventional narrative that surgery and hormonal treatments are infallible solutions. LaRell’s story is a testament to a lesser-discussed outcome: individuals who transition and still face unresolved psychological issues, leading them to reconsider the permanence of their decisions.
This book does not seek to undermine or invalidate the transgender experience but aims to illuminate the profound implications of assuming that changing one’s sex is a panacea. Through his narrative, LaRell advocates for a deeper understanding of self-love and acceptance, emphasizing that true happiness comes from embracing oneself as originally created.